Today I thought I might be able to write a post about my new (to me) Bugaboo Donkey. Oh ha di ha. How wrong I was. For I have been TOTALLY swindled. I am now sitting here hanging my head in shame hearing the tuts of many a mummy in what I have done. I have to get it out. And before you say I told you so, you really don’t have to…I know. But now instead of just feeling let down, disappointed and void of a double pushchair (and £550) I also feel foolish. For I would read this story and think…I would never do that. Beware my friend. We can all get sucked in.
I have been debating what double pushchair to get since I found out about number two. I know I will need one for a while as the pob isn’t even two, he gets tired, wants to walk but can’t manage long distance or even mid. I have a buggy board but really felt for the amount of walking I’ll be doing that I needed a double. Cue lots of research, Which? reviews and internet searching. I couldn’t afford what I really wanted. A new Bugaboo Donkey. Anyone who knows me will know that being Which? recommended made me want it even more!
I wanted it because you can have pram or car seat with a pushchair, the children are side by side, I still get to push my baby in a pram and the pob gets to sit in a pushchair when needed. I have NEVER spent loads of money on anything for me or the pob to do with anything. Most of our stuff is second hand as it is. Then I saw one last Tuesday at toddlers. I looked and thought ‘hmmm that is a pram and a pushchair double, it’s really nice, what make is it…’ low and behold Bugaboo. And do you know what, I thought sod it. I work hard I got a bonus, I’m going to find one second hand and just do it. For once I’m not going to compromise. I’ve never had an expensive hand bag, pair of shoes, coat, purse…anything designer at all ever! So this will be my one thing that I splurge on.
I found my perfect one on Gumtree last week and after exchanged texts, phone calls, emails with the seller decided to go for it. It was a massive decision for me to spend £550. Money is tight. But I reasoned that in six months I might not need it anymore and could sell it on. The lady selling it seemed lovely, we chatted about her children, family and even the decency of people selling online. Oh how foolish I was. After sending half the money she, conveniently, got cold feet about sending ‘such an expensive pram’ without the full amount. So we talked about it (this was the online decency discussion) and I ended up caving and given ‘her’ all the money. Stupid, stupid, stupid. Delivery day was today. I was so excited all weekend to get my new toy. The knocker didn’t knock, no card was left, no bugaboo came. Texts went unanswered, emails unread. Phone calls were ignored. My beloved never arrived.
By lunchtime I knew something was awry. I had heard nothing and her prompt responses weren’t coming. I felt sick. I called Gumtree and they obviously don’t refund. I called the bank, no luck. I reported it to Fraud Alert and the police. I’ve done all I can. The seller’s phone is now disconnected. There is no point emailing, they won’t read it. I am helpless.
So now I am £550 lighter. I am doubtful I will ever recover a penny. I am double buggy-less. I feel completely stupid and absolutely devastated. I have no more money to buy another double buggy let alone a Bugaboo, even second hand. It may seem silly but it was such a huge decision to spend that much and now I’m just sitting here with nothing. No one will wave a magic wand, I can do nothing.
I feel sorry for myself after the burglary, nan dying and now this. How fantastic. Indulge me, it won’t last long.
My advice to you is this. Never ever ever buy anything from Gumtree. Ever. They don’t cover you, PayPal or your bank won’t cover you (your credit card might but I don’t even have one). Even if the fraudster is found there is no guarantee your money will be returned. It might sounds obvious but don’t pay for anything in advance, no matter what the person says to you, how nice they are or what details they give you (I had full name, phone no, address, bank details…). Don’t let your guard down, ever. Stick to eBay (with whom you are covered) or buy face to face or through someone you know or a nearly new sale. Don’t make the same mistakes I did. Don’t think other people are decent. They aren’t. Fact.